Saturday, February 15, 2014

Some Valentine's Thoughts...



Yesterday I had a realization. A realization about my heart and Valentine's Day. But, before I write about yesterday, let's go back to the prior year.

Last year on Valentine's Day I was in a relationship. I wore a pink dress covered in printed hearts, made an itunes mixtape as a gift, and looked forward to being with my fellow in the time we had etched out in our crazy college schedules. I had high hopes for the time. I hoped to receive a little note of affection and then just enjoy some time together and hold his hand. I didn't expect anything fancy or elaborate. Yet, it still ended up being a bittersweet day. His heart was heavy due to a lot of factors which impacted his words and actions and made my heart heavy too. There were some hurt feelings, sadness, and distance. There was also a sweet gift of a balloon bouquet and affection. Yet, it was a bitter sweet Valentine's Day and I realized something- I had bought into the lie that Valentine's Day is a wonderful day if you are in a relationship and get to spend time with the person you are in a relationship with. I realized that simply isn't true. Bad news, heart ache, and tears are not excluded on Valentine's Day.

Now, flash forward a year later and I have had another realization. I genuinely thought  that I would be completely content to be single this year after the reality hit me that being in a relationship does not automatically make Valentine's Day great. However, yesterday I was caught off guard when I had that ache of longing to share the day with someone. It wasn't even just about Valentine's Day, I think it was more of an ache to share life with someone. To share and celebrate with, to love and support, to respect and cherish, to apologize to and to forgive, to learn from and grow. One thing I learned from last year is that a relationship reveals new levels of my selfishness and flaws. Being in a relationship was incredibly beautiful and joyous all the while being incredibly painful and humbling. Maybe someday I will be able to share all of that and more with someone, but for now, I desire to learn to be content and to not wallow when I feel that ache.

In fact, I realized that one of the greatest ways to spend my time when I feel that ache is to serve. Yesterday I could have chosen to stay by myself and wallow, but by Grace I instead spent many parts of the day serving. I tutored two very excited and distracted 1st graders in the morning, chosen to bless my family in little ways, and photographed an event. In those moments focused on blessing and honoring others I was not focused on myself or that ache in my heart, I was focused on loving others in practical ways.

And, here is what I learned- It isn't about being in a relationship on Valentine's Day or being single. It shouldn't even really be about me. The best way to spend Valentine's Day is to serve others in genuine love. It is taking the focus off of myself and using the skills, gifts, and finances I have to extend love to others. That is what I want to focus on when the future Valentine's Days in life come my way. Even more than that, serving and loving is what I desire to focus on each of the "ordinary" days that pass in between. By God's grace, may I grow in love, humility, patience, and learn to serve and bless those I interact with daily.    


Simply,
Sarah

1 comment:

  1. I always enjoyed Valentine's Day and getting candy from my mom, but then everyone starting making a big deal about it, and that is when I started feeling sort of humiliated.
    I nominated you for The Sunflower Blogger Award, but please don't feel pressured to participate if you don't really want to do so.

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